It's been awhile since I was a teenager, despite what people might say, so I'm also out of practice. Usually just treating them like adults works fine.
I think they may have the belief that they're being disagreed with because they're being disregarded for their age, when it's really just that people disagree with them and are telling them so like adults. I'm not sure how to actually get that across to them, however.
It's particularly frustrating because I wasn't disagreeing with them, not entirely. The complete inability to accept even the slightest deviation from their opinion is one thing, but immediately responding with the most scathing possible comment?
It's not even worth listening to them or speaking with them. I think that's the ultimate conclusion I've got to draw. A lack of engagement or response is the only sane way to deal with it.
Ren seems to usually be reasonable and offers helpful information even if I sometimes disagree with his conclusions, but I think you're right regarding Akechi. If I wanted to argue with someone who has their mind made up and clearly isn't listening to anything I say, I would've gone to law school.
[It's obviously a joke, but this is a moment where if he doesn't offer something in return that's going to be noticed; whether it'll be seen as being cold or just as a noteworthy curiosity he's not sure, but either way he thinks it might be okay to just be honest along with a caveat.]
I studied psychology, so I'm mostly made up of condescension and unwanted advice.
[Also obviously a joke, though his next comment is not--]
And that's not something I want widely shared, for probably obvious reasons.
[He's really glad Ian understands; he thought he would, but still. Lance often feels quite guilty for not telling anyone, but--]
That's why I decided not to mention it before; in Hadriel it caused so many problems. But yeah, it wasn't just undergrad; appropriately enough I specialize in trauma counseling.
[Something that you know, should be useful here, but he absolutely doesn't want to deal with how terrible the comments and insinuations would be if people here knew that.]
Is it normal for people to suddenly feel like you're going to psychically read their minds and see all of their problems as soon as you tell them that or is that just me
[Though he really appreciates that Ian's calling them 'weird'.]
My profession normally comes up at home and I made it clear in Hadriel, so this is the first time in a long time that I've been consistently interacting with strangers as just me. Maybe there's something I'm unaware of that's still coming across, and without the explanation for it it's just causing people to draw strange conclusions.
People get uncomfortable when they're asked questions that challenge their mindset. Conversations with you make people critically think, which makes them consider & acknowledge the possible flaws in their perspective from an outside point of view, and they transplant those insecurities onto you believing you to be insinuating them.
That's my theory, anyway. Fragile egos read things in a different inflection than they're actually presented, and paint over it with malice or condescension that doesn't actually exist.
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I don't think it'll be Kyna
I'm betting it'll be the other kid
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He actually contacted me to talk to me about the whole thing because he didn't like that I was annoyed with Kyna about it.
[So, you know, another issue.]
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I haven't been a teacher in years, I'm out of practice handling cocky youths.
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[But alas, not recently.]
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It's not even worth listening to them or speaking with them. I think that's the ultimate conclusion I've got to draw. A lack of engagement or response is the only sane way to deal with it.
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Ironically
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[It's obviously a joke, but this is a moment where if he doesn't offer something in return that's going to be noticed; whether it'll be seen as being cold or just as a noteworthy curiosity he's not sure, but either way he thinks it might be okay to just be honest along with a caveat.]
I studied psychology, so I'm mostly made up of condescension and unwanted advice.
[Also obviously a joke, though his next comment is not--]
And that's not something I want widely shared, for probably obvious reasons.
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That's why I decided not to mention it before; in Hadriel it caused so many problems. But yeah, it wasn't just undergrad; appropriately enough I specialize in trauma counseling.
[Something that you know, should be useful here, but he absolutely doesn't want to deal with how terrible the comments and insinuations would be if people here knew that.]
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[ Ha ha nervous laughter ha ha jokes. ]
Kind of makes all of it a little funnier in hindsight.
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[Putting it in nice terms.]
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Most of them
You get a lot of reactions, most of them jumping to some weird conclusions about your motivation or your attitude
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[Though he really appreciates that Ian's calling them 'weird'.]
My profession normally comes up at home and I made it clear in Hadriel, so this is the first time in a long time that I've been consistently interacting with strangers as just me. Maybe there's something I'm unaware of that's still coming across, and without the explanation for it it's just causing people to draw strange conclusions.
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That's my theory, anyway. Fragile egos read things in a different inflection than they're actually presented, and paint over it with malice or condescension that doesn't actually exist.
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